passive aggressive family members
"guess i’ll never be a grandma"
"guess i’ll never be an aunt"
"guess i’ll never be able to dress a niece/nephew"
stop feeling so entitled to my hypothetical offspring. it is not yours. it is mine. i will grow it if i grow it. and it will be mine. not yours. i am not an incubator which grants you familial titles. jesus. go away. this “have a baby i can play with” thing is so impersonal and insensitive and annoying.
This. My husband and I are childfree by choice. People ask my mum when she’s going to be a grandmother and when she tells them we aren’t having children, their reaction is usually along the lines of “Aren’t you disappointed about that?”. My mum’s answer is no, because she’s not an asshole and she respects my choices. Sometimes she also mentions that she already has two grandkittens and a grandaxolotl, then shows them pictures we sent her. Apparently that’s a great way to encourage someone to change the subject.